By Sean Cruz
Portland, Oregon—
I am feeling a great deal of empathy for the family of Kyron Horman, who spoke at a press conference today, eight weeks after their 7-year-old son was abducted.
Eight weeks after my four children disappeared from Oregon 14 years ago, my lawyer was able to obtain a PO Box number in Eden, Utah. It was our first clue to the general location of my children, somewhere in the mountains east of Ogden.
I later learned that mail was being received there, but not actually picked up by anyone, and that the letters I had been writing to my children's mother's last address were actually being forwarded to a woman in Hillsboro, a person named Evelyn Taylor.
By then, I had already learned that several people were involved in the kidnapping, that it had been in the works for months.
I learned even later that it is not illegal to receive mail intended for abducted children.
Later still, I learned that more than 200,000 US children are abducted by family members or persons known to the victims every year, and that the majority involve multiple perpetrators.
You learn these things one at a time when your children disappear.
A lot of numbness sets into your bones at the eight-week mark. The world feels completely empty.
And it stays that way.
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Parental abduction wisdom, pt 9: When the police figure it out
By Sean Cruz
Portland, Oregon--
The Multnomah County Sheriff’s Office announced yesterday, more than 50 days after Kyron Horman disappeared, that they were now convinced that a crime had taken place in the disappearance of Kyron Horman.
While it took law enforcement more than a month to decide that the disappearance of a 7-year-old child was a criminal matter, Kyron's family knew it right away.
When your child disappears, like mine did 14 years ago, you know right away that a crime has been and is being committed. Sometimes the police never figure it out….
Most of us who are parents knew by the end of the first day Kyron went missing that a crime had been committed, somewhere, somehow, by someone.
This child was not lost, had not wandered off on his own, this child had been taken, whether by a stranger or by a person known to the child, we did not know, but what we knew for certain was that a crime was being committed against this child and against this child’s family.
ALL of us who are parents of kidnapped children, parents of children who have vanished with or without a trace, we knew right away.
The police needed more than a month to come to that conclusion, in a case as obvious as Kyron Horman's.
They are MUCH slower when the issues aren't so clear-cut, like when the children have vanished along with a parent or family member.
The police will take reports of missing children and there’s a filing system for those reports, where they usually wind up.
But if a family member, if a parent is gone with the child(ren), then local law enforcement rarely forwards the report on to the Oregon State Police, which explains why so few abducted children are ever listed on the OSP website, which also explains why the Sheriff’s Office is unaware of any other children missing in Oregon “that meet the criteria.”
Many of those children are gone forever.
And that’s a crime, the same crime that began on the day each child disappeared, a continuing crime, crimes with beginnings but no end.
Try to tell them that when your child disappears, you'll see....
Portland, Oregon--
The Multnomah County Sheriff’s Office announced yesterday, more than 50 days after Kyron Horman disappeared, that they were now convinced that a crime had taken place in the disappearance of Kyron Horman.
While it took law enforcement more than a month to decide that the disappearance of a 7-year-old child was a criminal matter, Kyron's family knew it right away.
When your child disappears, like mine did 14 years ago, you know right away that a crime has been and is being committed. Sometimes the police never figure it out….
Most of us who are parents knew by the end of the first day Kyron went missing that a crime had been committed, somewhere, somehow, by someone.
This child was not lost, had not wandered off on his own, this child had been taken, whether by a stranger or by a person known to the child, we did not know, but what we knew for certain was that a crime was being committed against this child and against this child’s family.
ALL of us who are parents of kidnapped children, parents of children who have vanished with or without a trace, we knew right away.
The police needed more than a month to come to that conclusion, in a case as obvious as Kyron Horman's.
They are MUCH slower when the issues aren't so clear-cut, like when the children have vanished along with a parent or family member.
The police will take reports of missing children and there’s a filing system for those reports, where they usually wind up.
But if a family member, if a parent is gone with the child(ren), then local law enforcement rarely forwards the report on to the Oregon State Police, which explains why so few abducted children are ever listed on the OSP website, which also explains why the Sheriff’s Office is unaware of any other children missing in Oregon “that meet the criteria.”
Many of those children are gone forever.
And that’s a crime, the same crime that began on the day each child disappeared, a continuing crime, crimes with beginnings but no end.
Try to tell them that when your child disappears, you'll see....
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
I hurried to my son's gravesite
By Sean Cruz
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
Today was—would have been—was, and now forever will always be was, nevermore is, his birthday, and I would mark it with a vigil until sunset, with a vigil and a song, with a song and a lament, and with these words:
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him flowers, a glass vase, music and incense, an orange
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him photographs, dried fruit and nuts, and my blind Airedale Rex
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him a painted stone, and sips of tequila to share on his birthday
The sun was coming up
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
In the late afternoon came a grieving father
To a grave nearby came a grieving father
A son forever four lay beneath a marble racecourse
An oval with his fifty favorite cars embedded forever
Selected personally by the grieving father
Maintained personally by the grieving father
He worked in silence with his brushes and oils
The headstone cut racecar shape, a heart broken forever
In the late afternoon came the grieving father
Father of a four years forever child
Like a sailor who lies buried where he washed ashore
On this lonely knoll far from any semblance of home
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
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The vigil took place on March 21, 2010, Aaron’s birthday, at a cemetery in El Dorado Hills, California. The four-year-old’s father was one of the few persons to visit the cemetery that day, and no one came to remember my son but me.
I wrote this piece on April 20, 2010.
It was five years ago today, on April 20, 2005 that I received a phone call from the police in Payson, Utah, who told me that my son was found comatose and unresponsive there in his mother’s vacant former home. Aaron had a serious seizure disorder aggravated by years of medical neglect, emotional abuse and abandonment inflicted during his kidnapped years in Utah.
He was pronounced dead on April 25, 2005, and buried near Sacramento on May 3, 2005, a location convenient for his mother and her fifth husband, Aaron’s 3rd stepdad, a man who never knew my son.
There is no closure on a kidnapped child. The death of the child does not create closure.
The death of a kidnapped child only adds another dimension to the tragedy, to the trauma.
A kidnapping is a continuing crime, and so are its consequences.
Aaron’s grave lies no more than twenty miles from Sacramento, from the state Capitol, and it is there that I will seek the introduction of legislation making California the second state in the nation to adopt Aaron’s Law.
Watch me work!
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
Today was—would have been—was, and now forever will always be was, nevermore is, his birthday, and I would mark it with a vigil until sunset, with a vigil and a song, with a song and a lament, and with these words:
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him flowers, a glass vase, music and incense, an orange
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him photographs, dried fruit and nuts, and my blind Airedale Rex
I hurried to my son’s gravesite as the sun was coming up
I brought him a painted stone, and sips of tequila to share on his birthday
The sun was coming up
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
In the late afternoon came a grieving father
To a grave nearby came a grieving father
A son forever four lay beneath a marble racecourse
An oval with his fifty favorite cars embedded forever
Selected personally by the grieving father
Maintained personally by the grieving father
He worked in silence with his brushes and oils
The headstone cut racecar shape, a heart broken forever
In the late afternoon came the grieving father
Father of a four years forever child
Like a sailor who lies buried where he washed ashore
On this lonely knoll far from any semblance of home
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
My son lies near the top of the hill
Among strangers he lies near the top of the hill
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The vigil took place on March 21, 2010, Aaron’s birthday, at a cemetery in El Dorado Hills, California. The four-year-old’s father was one of the few persons to visit the cemetery that day, and no one came to remember my son but me.
I wrote this piece on April 20, 2010.
It was five years ago today, on April 20, 2005 that I received a phone call from the police in Payson, Utah, who told me that my son was found comatose and unresponsive there in his mother’s vacant former home. Aaron had a serious seizure disorder aggravated by years of medical neglect, emotional abuse and abandonment inflicted during his kidnapped years in Utah.
He was pronounced dead on April 25, 2005, and buried near Sacramento on May 3, 2005, a location convenient for his mother and her fifth husband, Aaron’s 3rd stepdad, a man who never knew my son.
There is no closure on a kidnapped child. The death of the child does not create closure.
The death of a kidnapped child only adds another dimension to the tragedy, to the trauma.
A kidnapping is a continuing crime, and so are its consequences.
Aaron’s grave lies no more than twenty miles from Sacramento, from the state Capitol, and it is there that I will seek the introduction of legislation making California the second state in the nation to adopt Aaron’s Law.
Watch me work!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Cruz kidnapper confrontation earns commendation from judge!
See you next year, judge rules!
By Sean Cruz
It took 14 years to get Kory Wright, the organizer of my children’s kidnapping, into a courtroom, and that drama played out today.
The courtroom opportunity took place as a result of my confrontation with this criminal in the lobby of the Vancouver Hilton Hotel, where I slapped him with a copy of Aaron’s Law, Oregon’s anti-kidnapping statute…
…bounced it right off of his face…, telling him: “Oregon’s Aaron’s Law was written for people like you, motherfucker. You are served!”
Kory Wright was asking for a permanent Order For Protection From Unlawful Civil Harassment, which would restrain me from entering or being within 250 feet of his home or of Columbia Ultimate, his place of employment.
The judge heard me out…you lose track of time in there…she listened to me explain the Order for Joint Custody that had protected my children for four years…
She listened to me describe how Kory Wright, motivated by his rabid Mormon zealotry, had violated that order and criminal statutes in three states, but there had been no investigation and the statute of limitations had run on those crimes….
The judge saw documentation detailing Kory Wright’s criminal conduct…there was no question about whether he violated the law or not, that was easy to show….
The judge heard me describe my history of work on the issue of parental and family abductions:
My testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Oregon Senate Judiciary Committee and the Joint Ways and Means Public Safety Committee in 2003….
My testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions in 2004….
My assignment, as Senator Avel Gordly’s Chief of Staff, to lead her workgroup on Senate Bill 1041 in the 2005 legislative session….
My 2005 testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Oregon Senate Judiciary Committee, the Senate Rules Committee and the House State and Federal Affairs Committee….
The 2005 passage of Senate Bill 1041 on a unanimous House vote…the bill became known as Aaron’s Law after the death of my son….
I showed the judge a photograph of my family—my children and I—taken before the abduction, and a photograph of Oregon Governor Ted Kulongoski signing the bill into law with Aaron’s picture on his desk….
The judge asked me questions…What does Aaron’s Law do?...I described the law…explained that it provides an alternative to traditional criminal and family law procedures….
I described how both the criminal and family law systems had failed in response to the abduction of my children, and how common the problem is….
The judge asked me if there were any other legal avenues available regarding my quest for justice against Kory Wright (and the other criminals)….
I explained that custodial interference statutes have a 3-year statute of limitations, even if the children remain kidnapped, and that fact plus the inaction of law enforcement had allowed Kory Wright and the other criminals to escape justice.
I said that I had hoped that she would find Kory Wright’s conduct offensive and that she might order him jailed today on a perjury charge….
We discussed the fact that my “service” of Aaron’s Law on Kory Wright was an intentionally symbolic act, and not a legal process. I had not gone to the Hilton in order to get into a scuffle but to serve a document…there was a larger public purpose at stake.
I described my ongoing efforts to raise public awareness of the crime of abduction by persons known to the child or to members of the child’s family….
We talked about the Hilton confrontation. If he hadn’t smiled, I wouldn’t have thrown the envelope at him, I explained. He smiled, I threw it at his face….
After some deliberation, the judge handed down her order:
“Mr. Cruz, I see that you are an intelligent man, and I commend you for your work on these issues….”
She then ordered the Protective Order into effect until October 27, 2010.
Kory Wright protested…he was asking for a permanent order….
“You will have to file again next year”, the judge said.
Next case.
Looks like I will be seeing my children’s kidnapper again, this time next year….
See you again, motherfucker…!
I wonder how soon/often he is planning to set foot in Oregon…home of Aaron’s Law…?
By Sean Cruz
It took 14 years to get Kory Wright, the organizer of my children’s kidnapping, into a courtroom, and that drama played out today.
The courtroom opportunity took place as a result of my confrontation with this criminal in the lobby of the Vancouver Hilton Hotel, where I slapped him with a copy of Aaron’s Law, Oregon’s anti-kidnapping statute…
…bounced it right off of his face…, telling him: “Oregon’s Aaron’s Law was written for people like you, motherfucker. You are served!”
Kory Wright was asking for a permanent Order For Protection From Unlawful Civil Harassment, which would restrain me from entering or being within 250 feet of his home or of Columbia Ultimate, his place of employment.
The judge heard me out…you lose track of time in there…she listened to me explain the Order for Joint Custody that had protected my children for four years…
She listened to me describe how Kory Wright, motivated by his rabid Mormon zealotry, had violated that order and criminal statutes in three states, but there had been no investigation and the statute of limitations had run on those crimes….
The judge saw documentation detailing Kory Wright’s criminal conduct…there was no question about whether he violated the law or not, that was easy to show….
The judge heard me describe my history of work on the issue of parental and family abductions:
My testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Oregon Senate Judiciary Committee and the Joint Ways and Means Public Safety Committee in 2003….
My testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Senate President’s Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions in 2004….
My assignment, as Senator Avel Gordly’s Chief of Staff, to lead her workgroup on Senate Bill 1041 in the 2005 legislative session….
My 2005 testimony on Kory Wright’s criminal conduct before the Oregon Senate Judiciary Committee, the Senate Rules Committee and the House State and Federal Affairs Committee….
The 2005 passage of Senate Bill 1041 on a unanimous House vote…the bill became known as Aaron’s Law after the death of my son….
I showed the judge a photograph of my family—my children and I—taken before the abduction, and a photograph of Oregon Governor Ted Kulongoski signing the bill into law with Aaron’s picture on his desk….
The judge asked me questions…What does Aaron’s Law do?...I described the law…explained that it provides an alternative to traditional criminal and family law procedures….
I described how both the criminal and family law systems had failed in response to the abduction of my children, and how common the problem is….
The judge asked me if there were any other legal avenues available regarding my quest for justice against Kory Wright (and the other criminals)….
I explained that custodial interference statutes have a 3-year statute of limitations, even if the children remain kidnapped, and that fact plus the inaction of law enforcement had allowed Kory Wright and the other criminals to escape justice.
I said that I had hoped that she would find Kory Wright’s conduct offensive and that she might order him jailed today on a perjury charge….
We discussed the fact that my “service” of Aaron’s Law on Kory Wright was an intentionally symbolic act, and not a legal process. I had not gone to the Hilton in order to get into a scuffle but to serve a document…there was a larger public purpose at stake.
I described my ongoing efforts to raise public awareness of the crime of abduction by persons known to the child or to members of the child’s family….
We talked about the Hilton confrontation. If he hadn’t smiled, I wouldn’t have thrown the envelope at him, I explained. He smiled, I threw it at his face….
After some deliberation, the judge handed down her order:
“Mr. Cruz, I see that you are an intelligent man, and I commend you for your work on these issues….”
She then ordered the Protective Order into effect until October 27, 2010.
Kory Wright protested…he was asking for a permanent order….
“You will have to file again next year”, the judge said.
Next case.
Looks like I will be seeing my children’s kidnapper again, this time next year….
See you again, motherfucker…!
I wonder how soon/often he is planning to set foot in Oregon…home of Aaron’s Law…?
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Triple-threat deterrence: How Oregon's Aaron's Law can prevent a kidnapping
by Sean Cruz
Portland, Oregon--With more than 200,000 US children suffering parental and family abductions every year, year after year, it is clear that current criminal and family law remedies are inadequate.
Far too often, people decide to abduct their own children (or, like Kory Wright, to take part in the abduction of someone else’s children), knowingly committing a criminal act, because they realize that they are likely to get away with it. They usually do.
Some 20% of parental and family abductions involve more than one perpetrator, and not all perpetrators are either family members or known to the child(ren).
Some abductions are impulsive or taken in haste. Others might be the result of much pre-planning, where the perpetrators coldly resolve well in advance to take a course of criminal conduct that will shatter the lives of their young victims.
Aaron’s Law fills key gaps, skirting both the criminal and family law processes to offer triple-threat deterrence, real reasons for many a would-be perpetrator to reconsider.
Oregon’s unique law also provides several new tools to resolve these soul-crushing conflicts where children are abducted by persons they love and trust.
Triple-threat deterrence
1. Under Aaron’s Law, the Court can immediately order the parties into counseling directed at educating the parties to the harm their actions are causing the children, and order them to pay the cost of the counseling.
2. Under Aaron’s Law, the Court can immediately assign a mental health professional and a legal advocate to protect the wellbeing of the children, and order the parties to the conflict to pay for these services as well.
3. Also under Aaron’s Law, both adult and child victims have recourse against
the perpetrators for special, general and punitive damages, for the cost of a life, for the loss of a future, for the destruction of a personality.
Had these provisions been in effect in 1996, my children would have been kept safe, and my son would still be alive today. There would have been no abduction.
Kory Wright would have been subject to Aaron’s Law, and this fact alone would have dissuaded him from organizing and perpetuating the crime. That’s the bottom line.
More on this later, to be sure….
I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts on www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com and www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Link to Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law:
http://www.leg.state.or.us/05reg/measpdf/sb1000.dir/sb1041.en.pdf
Portland, Oregon--With more than 200,000 US children suffering parental and family abductions every year, year after year, it is clear that current criminal and family law remedies are inadequate.
Far too often, people decide to abduct their own children (or, like Kory Wright, to take part in the abduction of someone else’s children), knowingly committing a criminal act, because they realize that they are likely to get away with it. They usually do.
Some 20% of parental and family abductions involve more than one perpetrator, and not all perpetrators are either family members or known to the child(ren).
Some abductions are impulsive or taken in haste. Others might be the result of much pre-planning, where the perpetrators coldly resolve well in advance to take a course of criminal conduct that will shatter the lives of their young victims.
Aaron’s Law fills key gaps, skirting both the criminal and family law processes to offer triple-threat deterrence, real reasons for many a would-be perpetrator to reconsider.
Oregon’s unique law also provides several new tools to resolve these soul-crushing conflicts where children are abducted by persons they love and trust.
Triple-threat deterrence
1. Under Aaron’s Law, the Court can immediately order the parties into counseling directed at educating the parties to the harm their actions are causing the children, and order them to pay the cost of the counseling.
2. Under Aaron’s Law, the Court can immediately assign a mental health professional and a legal advocate to protect the wellbeing of the children, and order the parties to the conflict to pay for these services as well.
3. Also under Aaron’s Law, both adult and child victims have recourse against
the perpetrators for special, general and punitive damages, for the cost of a life, for the loss of a future, for the destruction of a personality.
Had these provisions been in effect in 1996, my children would have been kept safe, and my son would still be alive today. There would have been no abduction.
Kory Wright would have been subject to Aaron’s Law, and this fact alone would have dissuaded him from organizing and perpetuating the crime. That’s the bottom line.
More on this later, to be sure….
I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts on www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com and www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Link to Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law:
http://www.leg.state.or.us/05reg/measpdf/sb1000.dir/sb1041.en.pdf
Monday, October 12, 2009
Oregon Governor Ted Kulongoski signed Aaron's Law with my son's photo on his desk
Chronology of Aaron's Law
In 2003, I testified to Kory Wright’s criminal involvement in the abduction of my children before the Oregon State Senate Judiciary Committee and the Joint Ways and Means Public Safety Subcommittee, about the “taking, enticing and keeping” of my children in violation of the Order for Joint Custody.
Also in 2003, Senate President Peter Courtney appointed the Interim Task Force on Parental and Family Abductions, which met in 2004 and reported its findings to the 2005 Oregon Legislature.
The blue-ribbon Abduction Task Force was co-chaired by Senators Avel Gordly and Frank Morse.
The Task Force included: Hon. Judge Maureen McKnight; former Senator John Minnis (Director of the Department of Public Safety Standards and Training); Liss Hart-Haviv of Take Root; Judy Hayes of the Oregon State Police, Missing Children’s Clearing House; Mickey Lansing of the Oregon Commission on Children and Families; Sybil Hebb of the Oregon Law Center; Madeline Olson of the Department of Human Services; Ronelle Shenkle of the Department of Justice; BeaLisa Sydlik of the Judicial Department; Patrick Callahan of the District Attorneys Association; and, Denise Washington of the Domestic Violence Coalition.
I testified before the Parental and Family Abduction Task Force in 2004.
Among its findings: “According to the U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, in 1999 an estimated 203, 900 children were victims of family abductions with 20 percent of the abductions involving more than one perpetrator. Although there are no numbers for Oregon regarding parental abductions (emphasis added), the Task Force is of the opinion that the rate of parental abductions in Oregon mirrors the rate for the country. In other words, there appear to be at least 5,000 parental abductions in Oregon every year. These abductions are illegal; they cause a tremendous amount of grief and anxiety for the parent or guardian with legal custody, and they cause immeasurable damage, both psychological and sometimes physical, to the abducted child.”
At the beginning of the 2005 legislative session, Senator Gordly tasked me with leading the workgroup on her Senate Bill 1041, which, after the death of my son, became known as Aaron’s Law.
In 2005, I testified on Senate Bill 1041 before the Senate Judiciary Committee and then before the Senate Rules Committee and the House State and Federal Affairs Committee, describing the multi-perpetrator criminal abduction of my children.
Aaron’s Law passed the Senate on a 26-3 vote and the House on a unanimous 59-0 vote as the 2005 legislative session came to an end.
Governor Ted Kulongoski signed the bill into law with Aaron’s picture on his desk.
In April, 2006, Aaron’s Law was among the featured sessions at “Out of the Frying Pan: Burning Issues in Access to Justice”, the Oregon Judicial Department and the State Family Law Advisory Committee’s fourth annual Family Law Conference.
Hon. Paul J. De Muniz, Chief Justice of the Oregon Supreme Court wrote:
“I am pleased to inform you that the State Family Law Advisory Committee is offering a workshop on parental abductions at its fourth Family Law Conference…. The curriculum for the workshop will include education on the nature of the problem, information about case studies from a practicing psychotherapist and two attorneys, information about Aaron’s Law (SB 1041), and existing statutory remedies in Oregon to enforce parenting plans and prevent abduction in the context of family law proceedings.”
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Sean Cruz's confrontation with his childrens' kidnapper moves to Clark County courtroom!
Portland, Oregon--
At long last,14 years after Kory Wright organized the disappearance of my four children, I will face him in a court of law, in the same building where my Order for Joint Custody had originated.
Korwin Jay Wright didn’t like being served with a copy of Aaron’s Law, Oregon Senate Bill 1041 (2005), and has filed for an Order for Protection, stating under penalty of perjury that “…I feel Mr. Cruz represents an immediate threat to me, my family and others.”
The kidnapper alleges that unlawful harassment has occurred.
The document states: “Unlawful harassment means a knowing and willful course of conduct directed at a specific person which seriously alarms, annoys, or harasses, or is detrimental to such person and which serves no legitimate or lawful purpose.”
I’m glad that the subject of “a knowing and willful course of conduct” will be part of the discussion, because it describes Kory Wright’s years-long actions in violating the Order for Joint Custody that once protected my children and kept their lives orderly and secure.
I’m also open to discussion regarding whether the incident “serves no legitimate or lawful purpose.”
FYI, neither Kory Wright nor any member of his family is related in any way to my family or to my former wife’s family. His involvement in the kidnapping of my children was motivated by his own extremist religious views and enabled by his position in the Mormon church, which he used, violating a trust relationship, to further the kidnapping over a years-long period of time.
It is a felony under Oregon statute to “take, entice or keep” a child in violation of a valid joint custody order, which is exactly what Kory Wright did. There was never a police investigation, and he was never charged with the crime.
Technically, the immediate crimes he committed were Custodial Interference I and II, both serious felonies with penalties of up to five years in prison.
An investigation would have shown that Kory Wright became involved in planning the disappearance of my children and their concealment in Utah several months before the actual kidnapping took place.
If we were talking about a stolen load of lumber or a pallet of printers or a car theft operation, there would have been charges of conspiracy and other related crimes added to the docket, both state and federal, and all of the defendants in court….
But the System handles child abduction cases where a family member is involved differently from the way stranger kidnappings are handled, ignoring the roles non-family members play in carrying out the crimes, focusing on just the parents, which often obscures the real picture and allows criminal conduct to go unaddressed.
More than 200,000 US children suffer an abduction where a parent or family member is involved every year, year after year…the System fails to make a dent in the numbers.
Child abductions by any party are so heinous, so damaging to the children and so costly to the victims’ families that the best solution is to deter these kidnappings from happening in the first place.
Aaron’s Law offers new tools to deter and resolve child abduction by any parties.
Aaron’s Law is landmark legislation, unique in the nation, and I hope to see it enacted by every state in the USA.
The fact is that, without Kory Wright, my children would have never been abducted….
…which is why I stated, when I served him with SB 1041, that Aaron’s Law was written for him and for people like him….
Aaron’s Law creates a civil cause of action that can only be triggered by the commission of a serious criminal act, the violation (in Oregon) of Custodial Interference I and II.
If Aaron’s Law had been on the books in 1995, Kory Wright would have faced an immediate lawsuit and would have been liable for the damage he caused my family to suffer, including “Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and punitive damages.”
His Mormon zealotry would have never been sufficient to motivate him to get involved in violating the Order for Joint Custody of a family he barely knew, not if it was going to cost him money.
More on this later….
The hearing will take place in Clark County District Court, 1200 Franklin Street, Vancouver Washington on October 16, 2009 at 9:00 a.m.
The public is invited.
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I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts on www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com and www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Link to Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law:
http://www.leg.state.or.us/05reg/measpdf/sb1000.dir/sb1041.en.pdf
At long last,14 years after Kory Wright organized the disappearance of my four children, I will face him in a court of law, in the same building where my Order for Joint Custody had originated.
Korwin Jay Wright didn’t like being served with a copy of Aaron’s Law, Oregon Senate Bill 1041 (2005), and has filed for an Order for Protection, stating under penalty of perjury that “…I feel Mr. Cruz represents an immediate threat to me, my family and others.”
The kidnapper alleges that unlawful harassment has occurred.
The document states: “Unlawful harassment means a knowing and willful course of conduct directed at a specific person which seriously alarms, annoys, or harasses, or is detrimental to such person and which serves no legitimate or lawful purpose.”
I’m glad that the subject of “a knowing and willful course of conduct” will be part of the discussion, because it describes Kory Wright’s years-long actions in violating the Order for Joint Custody that once protected my children and kept their lives orderly and secure.
I’m also open to discussion regarding whether the incident “serves no legitimate or lawful purpose.”
FYI, neither Kory Wright nor any member of his family is related in any way to my family or to my former wife’s family. His involvement in the kidnapping of my children was motivated by his own extremist religious views and enabled by his position in the Mormon church, which he used, violating a trust relationship, to further the kidnapping over a years-long period of time.
It is a felony under Oregon statute to “take, entice or keep” a child in violation of a valid joint custody order, which is exactly what Kory Wright did. There was never a police investigation, and he was never charged with the crime.
Technically, the immediate crimes he committed were Custodial Interference I and II, both serious felonies with penalties of up to five years in prison.
An investigation would have shown that Kory Wright became involved in planning the disappearance of my children and their concealment in Utah several months before the actual kidnapping took place.
If we were talking about a stolen load of lumber or a pallet of printers or a car theft operation, there would have been charges of conspiracy and other related crimes added to the docket, both state and federal, and all of the defendants in court….
But the System handles child abduction cases where a family member is involved differently from the way stranger kidnappings are handled, ignoring the roles non-family members play in carrying out the crimes, focusing on just the parents, which often obscures the real picture and allows criminal conduct to go unaddressed.
More than 200,000 US children suffer an abduction where a parent or family member is involved every year, year after year…the System fails to make a dent in the numbers.
Child abductions by any party are so heinous, so damaging to the children and so costly to the victims’ families that the best solution is to deter these kidnappings from happening in the first place.
Aaron’s Law offers new tools to deter and resolve child abduction by any parties.
Aaron’s Law is landmark legislation, unique in the nation, and I hope to see it enacted by every state in the USA.
The fact is that, without Kory Wright, my children would have never been abducted….
…which is why I stated, when I served him with SB 1041, that Aaron’s Law was written for him and for people like him….
Aaron’s Law creates a civil cause of action that can only be triggered by the commission of a serious criminal act, the violation (in Oregon) of Custodial Interference I and II.
If Aaron’s Law had been on the books in 1995, Kory Wright would have faced an immediate lawsuit and would have been liable for the damage he caused my family to suffer, including “Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and punitive damages.”
His Mormon zealotry would have never been sufficient to motivate him to get involved in violating the Order for Joint Custody of a family he barely knew, not if it was going to cost him money.
The hearing will take place in Clark County District Court, 1200 Franklin Street, Vancouver Washington on October 16, 2009 at 9:00 a.m.
The public is invited.
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I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts on www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com and www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Link to Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law:
http://www.leg.state.or.us/05reg/measpdf/sb1000.dir/sb1041.en.pdf
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Sean Cruz confronts man who kidnapped his children
Sean Cruz confronts man who kidnapped his children
Portland, Oregon—
Fourteen years ago, Kory Wright organized the kidnapping of my four children, and today I walked into the lobby of the Vancouver Hilton Hotel and slapped him in the face with a copy of Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law.
I became aware that he would be present at the Columbia Ultimate conference today, October 6, and I drove there with dual intentions: to confront this person who had done such grievous harm to my family; and to raise awareness of the issue of child abduction by persons known to the child or the child’s family.
He looked at me quizzically as I approached him, and I asked him if he remembered who I was…he was unsure….
“My name is Sean Cruz. You kidnapped my children, motherfucker.”
He remembered who I was then, smirked a little, thinking back to how good it felt to cause my children to disappear from their Oregon homes into the mountains east of Ogden, Utah, near where Kory Wright was living.
“Oregon’s Aaron’s Law was written for people like you, motherfucker,” I said, and bounced the envelope right off of his face. “You are served!” That ended the smirking.
The entire confrontation lasted less than 30 seconds. I was careful to keep to my talking points:
1. I am Sean Cruz
2. You kidnapped my children (motherfucker)!
3. You ruined six lives: mine, my mother's (who died four years later without seeing or hearing from her grandchildren again), and my four children (Natalia, Aaron, Tyler and Allie)
4. Aaron's Law was written for you, and people like you (motherfucker)!
Those were my words to Kory Wright, Mormon zealot.
To be specific, when my children disappeared on February 12, 1996, my former wife drove them directly to the home of Chris and Kory Wright, who were living east of Ogden, Utah at the time. It was at the Wright home that my children were first concealed.
I then walked out of the hotel and drove to the Vancouver Columbian where I spoke at length with a reporter, about child abduction in general and the kidnapping of my children in particular.
My essential point was that Aaron’s Law is designed to deter non-stranger abductions, but it cannot possibly serve as a deterrent if no one knows it exists, and the Oregon State Bar hasn’t produced a single lawyer who is conversant with either the law or the issue.
It is a felony to “take, entice or keep” a child in violation of a valid joint custody order, which is exactly what Kory and Chris Wright did, Mormon zealots that they are. There was never a police investigation, and they were never charged with the crime.
I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts.
Portland, Oregon—
Fourteen years ago, Kory Wright organized the kidnapping of my four children, and today I walked into the lobby of the Vancouver Hilton Hotel and slapped him in the face with a copy of Senate Bill 1041, Aaron’s Law.
I became aware that he would be present at the Columbia Ultimate conference today, October 6, and I drove there with dual intentions: to confront this person who had done such grievous harm to my family; and to raise awareness of the issue of child abduction by persons known to the child or the child’s family.
He looked at me quizzically as I approached him, and I asked him if he remembered who I was…he was unsure….
“My name is Sean Cruz. You kidnapped my children, motherfucker.”
He remembered who I was then, smirked a little, thinking back to how good it felt to cause my children to disappear from their Oregon homes into the mountains east of Ogden, Utah, near where Kory Wright was living.
“Oregon’s Aaron’s Law was written for people like you, motherfucker,” I said, and bounced the envelope right off of his face. “You are served!” That ended the smirking.
The entire confrontation lasted less than 30 seconds. I was careful to keep to my talking points:
1. I am Sean Cruz
2. You kidnapped my children (motherfucker)!
3. You ruined six lives: mine, my mother's (who died four years later without seeing or hearing from her grandchildren again), and my four children (Natalia, Aaron, Tyler and Allie)
4. Aaron's Law was written for you, and people like you (motherfucker)!
Those were my words to Kory Wright, Mormon zealot.
To be specific, when my children disappeared on February 12, 1996, my former wife drove them directly to the home of Chris and Kory Wright, who were living east of Ogden, Utah at the time. It was at the Wright home that my children were first concealed.
I then walked out of the hotel and drove to the Vancouver Columbian where I spoke at length with a reporter, about child abduction in general and the kidnapping of my children in particular.
My essential point was that Aaron’s Law is designed to deter non-stranger abductions, but it cannot possibly serve as a deterrent if no one knows it exists, and the Oregon State Bar hasn’t produced a single lawyer who is conversant with either the law or the issue.
It is a felony to “take, entice or keep” a child in violation of a valid joint custody order, which is exactly what Kory and Chris Wright did, Mormon zealots that they are. There was never a police investigation, and they were never charged with the crime.
I’ve written extensively about the kidnapping and Aaron’s Law in earlier posts.
Friday, August 14, 2009
(37) Letters to Angela (Adams)
by Sean Cruz
Portland, Oregon--Between October 1998 and February 2000, I wrote 37 letters to Ms Angela Adams, one of the Guardians ad Litem that the Utah court had assigned to the case, ostensibly to protect the wellbeing of my children.
You have to understand that the case had been moved to Utah, and theocratic Utah can be as distant from America as Saudi Arabia when it comes to the rights of women, children and non-Mormon parents.
Two and a half years had passed since my children had disappeared, since my elderly and medically fragile mother had had any contact with her grandchildren, and I wrote dozens of letters to Angela, begging her to help us.
Nearly all of the letters went unanswered, these (excerpted) among them:
October 26, 1998
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms. Adams:
Please be advised that Gina is again keeping the children incommunicado. Neither I nor any other member of my family has been able to reach them. This is a very typical pattern. It is not unusual, since Gina disappeared with the kids, for no one to answer the phone in the children’s home for weeks—even months—at a time.
My mother (the children’s sole surviving grandparent) continues to lie in a hospital bed without any contact with her grandchildren. She has been hospitalized since June after having been homebound for the past five years. She contracted pneumonia last week.
She has not seen her grandchildren since early February 1996 (the day before Gina vanished with the children).
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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November 2, 1998
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother has still not heard a word from the kids. She does not have a lot of time left, and is suffering memory loss. She really needs to hear her grandchildren’s voices, and the kids need to have a connection to her.
These kids need to be able to communicate with us. I hope that you can do something to help.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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February 3, 1999
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms Adams:
I believe that it is important that the children have some quality time with their grandmother this summer. She has been hospitalized since June 1998 and will probably remain in residential care permanently. Gina has not permitted the children to contact their grandmother even once. Out of the $800 per month in child support that I am paying Gina each month, she ought to be able to find a few dollars for a phone call. The children have not seen or had meaningful contact with their grandmother since Gina disappeared with the kids nearly three years ago. Gina unilaterally changed the visitation pattern from daily contact to zero.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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February 22, 1999
Dear Ms Adams:
I have received no communication from either Gina or her last known attorney, Mr. Thomas, in reply to my request for visitation time with my children.
As I stated several times before, I am completely agreeable to visitation circumstances as your office wishes to arrange.
My goal is to restore normal and consistent visitation with each of my children. I also wish to restore my children’s normal contact with their grandmother.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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May 17, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
Location of my children remains unknown
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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May 24, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I have to say that I am really very unhappy with where we all are in this case at the present moment. I have acted in good faith, with the expectation that all the other parties would act in good faith, and that my family might have an opportunity for healing and normalization, and that my children’s best interests might at long last be served.
I have stated and written many times about my concerns for summer visitation, and have given warnings about how Gina will manipulate the situation so that the entire summer passes and no visitation will occur.
But here we are, with the last day of school three days away, and absolutely nothing is settled for summer visitation, not even a date in court on the calendar. How can any family be expected to thrive under these conditions? I have been asking for court action regarding summer visitation for more than six months.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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October 5, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
The children remain incommunicado. I call several times daily. Day after day, week after week, month after month, and now shortly going into the fourth year of this nightmare.
On those occasions when I am able to contact the kids, they always tell me that they are hardly ever home. Either way, whether they are hardly ever home or they are not permitted to answer the phone, these are signs of an unhealthy home environment.
I have been in contact with Payson Senior High and learned that Gina continues to enroll the children without listing me as a parent. She has been doing this for five years. The school continues to list Steve Nielson (her 4th ex-husband) as parent/guardian, which is no longer true. I want to be listed as the children’s father.
Tomorrow, October 6, is Tyler’s birthday. I would like to have some contact with him. According to our lawful parenting plan, Gina and I are to alternate birthdays with each child. She his prevented this contact from occurring, even by telephone, ever since she disappeared with the kids. It is detrimental to a child’s emotional wellbeing to be manipulated like this. I ask that you break through somehow so that I may have a little time with my son.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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October 19, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
The visitation by phone that you arranged for did not occur. No one answered the phone at the scheduled time, nor at 15 minutes past the hour. Gina’s unwillingness to act in good faith continues unabated.
Is there any portion of our Parenting Plan that will be honored in the state of Utah?
I have a right to access to my children’s medical records. I am particularly concerned about Aaron’s depression. How can I get meaningful information here?
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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November 22, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I briefly spoke to Gina Saturday morning 11/20 at 9:30 a.m. PST. She refused to let me speak to the kids and hung up the phone. She said that she personally is rarely home. The kids are generally left to their own devices, and are not often “home” themselves, so the opportunity to speak to them does not come very often.
The kids have told me—on those rare occasions when I am able to get through—that they receive none of the messages that I leave for them, and that they have no access to the number needed to retrieve messages. They have no way of knowing that their father is trying to reach them, and no access to the messages.
On Sunday, Gina placed a block on her phone, preventing me from contacting the children from my personal phone. I am hereby requesting that you do something to change this. The phone number she has blocked is (503) 701-6036. Gina has stood in court in three states and sworn under oath that she does nothing to discourage contact and in fact encourages it—and yet the truth is in her actions. Someday, there will be a time and a place and a court that will actually examine the record and do something to right this wrong.
Gina continues to have the schools list Steve Nielson as the children’s “step-parent or guardian”, of which he is neither. Can something be done about this?
This week is Thanksgiving. According to our Parenting Plan—as well as normal human decency—there should be some contact. Christmas is coming as well. What do you recommend that we do about this? According to the plan, we are to alternate years. Gina has unilaterally seized all holidays for the past (nearly) four years. The only holiday contact that I have been able to have was two years ago, after the Washington court found her in contempt.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==========================
November 23, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I spoke yesterday with Cheryl Vernon, Aaron’s resource teacher at Payson HS, and learned the following:
She hasn’t seen Aaron in two months.
She has been unable to contact Gina.
She understands that the kids have moved again.
Aaron’s report card was marked “return to sender” and returned to the school. I think that this simple fact speaks volumes about Gina’s actual involvement with the kids.
My concern for Aaron increases with each passing day.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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December 3, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I spoke today with Steven Taylor, Aaron’s former counselor, and learned that they have checked Aaron out of school. Aaron hasn’t been there, and they haven’t seen or heard from Gina in a long time.
Curiously, they have heard from Gina’s friend Dale, and understand that he is playing some sort of foster parent role with my children in Gina’s absence. School officials have the impression that Gina spends very little time at home with the children.
As expected, Gina remains completely non-cooperative regarding holiday phone visitation.
Today is Day 1382 (nearly four years) since Gina disappeared with the children.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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December 22, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
Thank you for your reply.
As for Aaron’s schooling, I am completely at a loss as to why anyone is “comfortable” with the present situation.
I would like very much to have some time to speak with my children on Christmas Day. Gina is chronically non-cooperative on holidays, birthdays and other special days, which—again—is a violation of the Parenting Plan and Stipulated Agreement. I will take any time at all on Christmas Day.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==========
February 1, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
I have often stated that Gina’s refusal to allow the children to have contact with their grandmother is detrimental. That situation continues.
Now we have come to a point where my mother’s ability to communicate is deteriorating drastically. Would it be too much to ask that the children have an opportunity to call their grandmother and have what may be their last intelligible conversation?
I have requested previously that I have an opportunity to speak to my daughter on her birthday. That day is tomorrow, and I have heard nothing from your office on the matter.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=======================
February 3, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
Gina failed to provide my daughter for the scheduled birthday phone visit—once again. I called at 15-minute intervals between 9:00 and 10:00 pm MST per your arrangements, and no one answered the phone.
My mother’s situation is grave. She has been moved to the hospital for pneumonia, and her mental condition has taken a sudden turn for the worse. She is, for example, unable to connect the sound of the telephone ringing with actually answering it. I am able to converse with her only with the help of a nurse. It would bring my mother the greatest joy to hear her grandchildren’s voices. She has not seen her grandchildren since Gina disappeared with the kids four years ago.
I repeat my contention that Gina’s conscious estrangement of the children from their grandmother is abusive.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=======================
February 8, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
Last night’s prearranged phone visit did not occur. I called four times during the hour and—yet again—Gina did not provide the kids. It must be clear by now that she has no intention of keeping her agreements or dealing with your office honestly.
When I discussed the scheduled phone visits with Aaron, he stated that Gina had never told him about them. I am able to converse with Aaron regularly by calling the house where he actually lives (with his friends), not the house where children aren’t permitted to answer the phone.
February 12 will mark the fourth anniversary of the day Gina took the kids out of school and vanished.
I remain my children’s father, day in and day out.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==================
February 10, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother is rapidly losing the ability to communicate effectively. Would it be too much to ask that she receive one final phone call from her grandchildren? She is unable to dial the phone herself, and the children aren’t permitted to answer the phone in their “home” anyway.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
================
February 22, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother’s condition has deteriorated to the point that she may not be able to have a conversation with the kids. She has very little time left. The nurse reports that she is lethargic, doesn’t respond to attempts by the hospital staff to communicate, and refuses food and medication.
I had this dream that she would hear her grandchildren’s voices one more time, and I had hoped that your office might be some help.
Gina continued to fail to provide the children for the scheduled phone visit on Sunday and Monday, once again.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=====================
February 28, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother passed away on Saturday. Gina did not permit the children to contact her before she died.
On Sunday morning at 8:30 a.m. MST, I called to tell my kids about their grandmother’s passing. Gina answered the phone. I explained the reason for my call. She told me that the kids were still asleep, refused to allow me to talk to the kids, and hung up the phone.
This week, we will bury the children’s grandmother, and with her we will place a photograph of her grandchildren the way she remembered them—the way they looked 1468 days ago—when Gina stole them away in the dark of night.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=================
I never wrote to Angela Adams again.
Portland, Oregon--Between October 1998 and February 2000, I wrote 37 letters to Ms Angela Adams, one of the Guardians ad Litem that the Utah court had assigned to the case, ostensibly to protect the wellbeing of my children.
You have to understand that the case had been moved to Utah, and theocratic Utah can be as distant from America as Saudi Arabia when it comes to the rights of women, children and non-Mormon parents.
Two and a half years had passed since my children had disappeared, since my elderly and medically fragile mother had had any contact with her grandchildren, and I wrote dozens of letters to Angela, begging her to help us.
Nearly all of the letters went unanswered, these (excerpted) among them:
October 26, 1998
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms. Adams:
Please be advised that Gina is again keeping the children incommunicado. Neither I nor any other member of my family has been able to reach them. This is a very typical pattern. It is not unusual, since Gina disappeared with the kids, for no one to answer the phone in the children’s home for weeks—even months—at a time.
My mother (the children’s sole surviving grandparent) continues to lie in a hospital bed without any contact with her grandchildren. She has been hospitalized since June after having been homebound for the past five years. She contracted pneumonia last week.
She has not seen her grandchildren since early February 1996 (the day before Gina vanished with the children).
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=====================
November 2, 1998
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother has still not heard a word from the kids. She does not have a lot of time left, and is suffering memory loss. She really needs to hear her grandchildren’s voices, and the kids need to have a connection to her.
These kids need to be able to communicate with us. I hope that you can do something to help.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=================
February 3, 1999
Ms Angela Adams
Office of the Guardian Ad Litem
32 West Center Street, Ste 205
Provo, UT 84601
Dear Ms Adams:
I believe that it is important that the children have some quality time with their grandmother this summer. She has been hospitalized since June 1998 and will probably remain in residential care permanently. Gina has not permitted the children to contact their grandmother even once. Out of the $800 per month in child support that I am paying Gina each month, she ought to be able to find a few dollars for a phone call. The children have not seen or had meaningful contact with their grandmother since Gina disappeared with the kids nearly three years ago. Gina unilaterally changed the visitation pattern from daily contact to zero.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=================
February 22, 1999
Dear Ms Adams:
I have received no communication from either Gina or her last known attorney, Mr. Thomas, in reply to my request for visitation time with my children.
As I stated several times before, I am completely agreeable to visitation circumstances as your office wishes to arrange.
My goal is to restore normal and consistent visitation with each of my children. I also wish to restore my children’s normal contact with their grandmother.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==================
May 17, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
Location of my children remains unknown
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=============
May 24, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I have to say that I am really very unhappy with where we all are in this case at the present moment. I have acted in good faith, with the expectation that all the other parties would act in good faith, and that my family might have an opportunity for healing and normalization, and that my children’s best interests might at long last be served.
I have stated and written many times about my concerns for summer visitation, and have given warnings about how Gina will manipulate the situation so that the entire summer passes and no visitation will occur.
But here we are, with the last day of school three days away, and absolutely nothing is settled for summer visitation, not even a date in court on the calendar. How can any family be expected to thrive under these conditions? I have been asking for court action regarding summer visitation for more than six months.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==============
October 5, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
The children remain incommunicado. I call several times daily. Day after day, week after week, month after month, and now shortly going into the fourth year of this nightmare.
On those occasions when I am able to contact the kids, they always tell me that they are hardly ever home. Either way, whether they are hardly ever home or they are not permitted to answer the phone, these are signs of an unhealthy home environment.
I have been in contact with Payson Senior High and learned that Gina continues to enroll the children without listing me as a parent. She has been doing this for five years. The school continues to list Steve Nielson (her 4th ex-husband) as parent/guardian, which is no longer true. I want to be listed as the children’s father.
Tomorrow, October 6, is Tyler’s birthday. I would like to have some contact with him. According to our lawful parenting plan, Gina and I are to alternate birthdays with each child. She his prevented this contact from occurring, even by telephone, ever since she disappeared with the kids. It is detrimental to a child’s emotional wellbeing to be manipulated like this. I ask that you break through somehow so that I may have a little time with my son.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==============
October 19, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
The visitation by phone that you arranged for did not occur. No one answered the phone at the scheduled time, nor at 15 minutes past the hour. Gina’s unwillingness to act in good faith continues unabated.
Is there any portion of our Parenting Plan that will be honored in the state of Utah?
I have a right to access to my children’s medical records. I am particularly concerned about Aaron’s depression. How can I get meaningful information here?
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==================
November 22, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I briefly spoke to Gina Saturday morning 11/20 at 9:30 a.m. PST. She refused to let me speak to the kids and hung up the phone. She said that she personally is rarely home. The kids are generally left to their own devices, and are not often “home” themselves, so the opportunity to speak to them does not come very often.
The kids have told me—on those rare occasions when I am able to get through—that they receive none of the messages that I leave for them, and that they have no access to the number needed to retrieve messages. They have no way of knowing that their father is trying to reach them, and no access to the messages.
On Sunday, Gina placed a block on her phone, preventing me from contacting the children from my personal phone. I am hereby requesting that you do something to change this. The phone number she has blocked is (503) 701-6036. Gina has stood in court in three states and sworn under oath that she does nothing to discourage contact and in fact encourages it—and yet the truth is in her actions. Someday, there will be a time and a place and a court that will actually examine the record and do something to right this wrong.
Gina continues to have the schools list Steve Nielson as the children’s “step-parent or guardian”, of which he is neither. Can something be done about this?
This week is Thanksgiving. According to our Parenting Plan—as well as normal human decency—there should be some contact. Christmas is coming as well. What do you recommend that we do about this? According to the plan, we are to alternate years. Gina has unilaterally seized all holidays for the past (nearly) four years. The only holiday contact that I have been able to have was two years ago, after the Washington court found her in contempt.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==========================
November 23, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I spoke yesterday with Cheryl Vernon, Aaron’s resource teacher at Payson HS, and learned the following:
She hasn’t seen Aaron in two months.
She has been unable to contact Gina.
She understands that the kids have moved again.
Aaron’s report card was marked “return to sender” and returned to the school. I think that this simple fact speaks volumes about Gina’s actual involvement with the kids.
My concern for Aaron increases with each passing day.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
===============
December 3, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
I spoke today with Steven Taylor, Aaron’s former counselor, and learned that they have checked Aaron out of school. Aaron hasn’t been there, and they haven’t seen or heard from Gina in a long time.
Curiously, they have heard from Gina’s friend Dale, and understand that he is playing some sort of foster parent role with my children in Gina’s absence. School officials have the impression that Gina spends very little time at home with the children.
As expected, Gina remains completely non-cooperative regarding holiday phone visitation.
Today is Day 1382 (nearly four years) since Gina disappeared with the children.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=============
December 22, 1999
Dear Ms. Adams:
Thank you for your reply.
As for Aaron’s schooling, I am completely at a loss as to why anyone is “comfortable” with the present situation.
I would like very much to have some time to speak with my children on Christmas Day. Gina is chronically non-cooperative on holidays, birthdays and other special days, which—again—is a violation of the Parenting Plan and Stipulated Agreement. I will take any time at all on Christmas Day.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
==========
February 1, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
I have often stated that Gina’s refusal to allow the children to have contact with their grandmother is detrimental. That situation continues.
Now we have come to a point where my mother’s ability to communicate is deteriorating drastically. Would it be too much to ask that the children have an opportunity to call their grandmother and have what may be their last intelligible conversation?
I have requested previously that I have an opportunity to speak to my daughter on her birthday. That day is tomorrow, and I have heard nothing from your office on the matter.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=======================
February 3, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
Gina failed to provide my daughter for the scheduled birthday phone visit—once again. I called at 15-minute intervals between 9:00 and 10:00 pm MST per your arrangements, and no one answered the phone.
My mother’s situation is grave. She has been moved to the hospital for pneumonia, and her mental condition has taken a sudden turn for the worse. She is, for example, unable to connect the sound of the telephone ringing with actually answering it. I am able to converse with her only with the help of a nurse. It would bring my mother the greatest joy to hear her grandchildren’s voices. She has not seen her grandchildren since Gina disappeared with the kids four years ago.
I repeat my contention that Gina’s conscious estrangement of the children from their grandmother is abusive.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
=======================
February 8, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
Last night’s prearranged phone visit did not occur. I called four times during the hour and—yet again—Gina did not provide the kids. It must be clear by now that she has no intention of keeping her agreements or dealing with your office honestly.
When I discussed the scheduled phone visits with Aaron, he stated that Gina had never told him about them. I am able to converse with Aaron regularly by calling the house where he actually lives (with his friends), not the house where children aren’t permitted to answer the phone.
February 12 will mark the fourth anniversary of the day Gina took the kids out of school and vanished.
I remain my children’s father, day in and day out.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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February 10, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother is rapidly losing the ability to communicate effectively. Would it be too much to ask that she receive one final phone call from her grandchildren? She is unable to dial the phone herself, and the children aren’t permitted to answer the phone in their “home” anyway.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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February 22, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother’s condition has deteriorated to the point that she may not be able to have a conversation with the kids. She has very little time left. The nurse reports that she is lethargic, doesn’t respond to attempts by the hospital staff to communicate, and refuses food and medication.
I had this dream that she would hear her grandchildren’s voices one more time, and I had hoped that your office might be some help.
Gina continued to fail to provide the children for the scheduled phone visit on Sunday and Monday, once again.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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February 28, 2000
Dear Ms. Adams:
My mother passed away on Saturday. Gina did not permit the children to contact her before she died.
On Sunday morning at 8:30 a.m. MST, I called to tell my kids about their grandmother’s passing. Gina answered the phone. I explained the reason for my call. She told me that the kids were still asleep, refused to allow me to talk to the kids, and hung up the phone.
This week, we will bury the children’s grandmother, and with her we will place a photograph of her grandchildren the way she remembered them—the way they looked 1468 days ago—when Gina stole them away in the dark of night.
Sincerely,
Sean Cruz
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I never wrote to Angela Adams again.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Parental abduction wisdom, pt 6: The little girl in the blue dress
By Sean Cruz
Portland, Oregon--
How long does a father's love last? MSNBC’s Dateline asked the question….
When Richard Pulsifer arrived to see his children, 6-year-old Richard, Jr. and 3-year-old Michelle, on a summer day in 1969, he found that the house where his former wife and her new boyfriend had been living was empty.
He went to the authorities, to law enforcement but was rebuffed at every turn. No one was willing to take his children’s disappearance seriously.
The police wouldn’t take a missing persons report, because the children were presumed to be with their mother, who had full custody. She had the right to do whatever she wanted to do with the children.
A recent story on MSNBC’s Dateline tells this tragic story of a parental kidnapping, of a father’s broken heart, of a little girl who fell through the cracks in the worst possible way….
“(MSNBC): Even though Donna had full custody of the kids, Dick had never imagined that his ex-wife and her boyfriend could just take the kids and vanish without his permission. He immediately complained to local authorities.
“Dick Pulsifer: ‘I went to the social services. Told them-- I said, "They can't do that. It's illegal." And they said, "Well, yes, she can. She's got full custody; she can do what she wants."
“(MSNBC): He was helpless -- and heart sick. Where were they? It would be months, and he'd receive another blow -- news that his wife and son were accounted for, but his daughter, Michelle, was not. Somehow, Michelle was gone.”
Michelle had vanished from the face of the earth.
All that was left was a handful of photographs, memories, and a father’s love.
He began a search for his little girl that would take years, decades, lifetimes….
“(MSNBC) John Larson: ’What is life like when you have to wonder and look at every little girl you see?’
Dick Pulsifer: ‘You're always seeing that child somewhere, walking through a crowd. Wow, that could have been her, you know.’
(MSNBC) John Larson: ‘And this isn't like once a year.’
Dick Pulsifer: ‘No, it's all the time.’”
Nearly forty years after Michelle vanished, the police finally took the case of the missing little girl seriously enough to open an investigation.
See the story of Michelle Pulsifer, here:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23592454/
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Coming next:
Parental abduction wisdom, pt 7: Comments on “The little girl in the blue dress”
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Sean Cruz writes
Parental Abduction Law at http://www.parentalabductionlaw.blogspot.com
Oregon’s Aaron’s Law: Stop Parental Abductions at http://www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Blogolitical Sean at http://www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com
Resources:
Take Root link: Survivors of parental and family abductions speak out
http://www.takeroot.org/flash.php
Link to Find the Children: Become aware; Save a child’s life
http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/2008/news/find.the.children/index.html
Portland, Oregon--
How long does a father's love last? MSNBC’s Dateline asked the question….
When Richard Pulsifer arrived to see his children, 6-year-old Richard, Jr. and 3-year-old Michelle, on a summer day in 1969, he found that the house where his former wife and her new boyfriend had been living was empty.
He went to the authorities, to law enforcement but was rebuffed at every turn. No one was willing to take his children’s disappearance seriously.
The police wouldn’t take a missing persons report, because the children were presumed to be with their mother, who had full custody. She had the right to do whatever she wanted to do with the children.
A recent story on MSNBC’s Dateline tells this tragic story of a parental kidnapping, of a father’s broken heart, of a little girl who fell through the cracks in the worst possible way….
“(MSNBC): Even though Donna had full custody of the kids, Dick had never imagined that his ex-wife and her boyfriend could just take the kids and vanish without his permission. He immediately complained to local authorities.
“Dick Pulsifer: ‘I went to the social services. Told them-- I said, "They can't do that. It's illegal." And they said, "Well, yes, she can. She's got full custody; she can do what she wants."
“(MSNBC): He was helpless -- and heart sick. Where were they? It would be months, and he'd receive another blow -- news that his wife and son were accounted for, but his daughter, Michelle, was not. Somehow, Michelle was gone.”
Michelle had vanished from the face of the earth.
All that was left was a handful of photographs, memories, and a father’s love.
He began a search for his little girl that would take years, decades, lifetimes….
“(MSNBC) John Larson: ’What is life like when you have to wonder and look at every little girl you see?’
Dick Pulsifer: ‘You're always seeing that child somewhere, walking through a crowd. Wow, that could have been her, you know.’
(MSNBC) John Larson: ‘And this isn't like once a year.’
Dick Pulsifer: ‘No, it's all the time.’”
Nearly forty years after Michelle vanished, the police finally took the case of the missing little girl seriously enough to open an investigation.
See the story of Michelle Pulsifer, here:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23592454/
=========
Coming next:
Parental abduction wisdom, pt 7: Comments on “The little girl in the blue dress”
=========
Sean Cruz writes
Parental Abduction Law at http://www.parentalabductionlaw.blogspot.com
Oregon’s Aaron’s Law: Stop Parental Abductions at http://www.aaronslaw.blogspot.com
Blogolitical Sean at http://www.blogoliticalsean.blogspot.com
Resources:
Take Root link: Survivors of parental and family abductions speak out
http://www.takeroot.org/flash.php
Link to Find the Children: Become aware; Save a child’s life
http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/2008/news/find.the.children/index.html
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